So, continuing on my theme of friendship, what are friends actually for?
I think that they are especially valuable when they challenge us–to look at ourselves differently, to think about things differently, to get out of our own way. I recently had a dilemma about one of the people I work with. He has been in a difficult family situation, I’ve been watching from a distance, and it finally reached a point where it is jeopardizing our business.
What to do? Say something I think will help? Stay back and see what happens? Talk behind his back to others and share our opinions with each other but not tell him? I have done bits of the last two choices and found them to be unsatisfactory. They didn’t help….
So after sleeping on it, I sat down and wrote him a long letter this morning. I told him what I thought, I made a few suggestions and pushed send. And I took a big risk!
I don’t know what will come of it, but at least I did something, and even if he reacts negatively to what I wrote, I can at least look myself in the mirror and know I did what I believed was the right thing to do. Isn’t that what friends are for?
If your friendship is genuine tell the friend what is in the best interest of their overall growth as a being, no matter what charge the response will be, the essence of the being will feel the love and the spirit in which the information was relayed. Real Love whether tough or supportive is a function of real friends and I see you are the right kind of friend. If someone has a problem with your truth, that is theirs and not yours.